What if “no” was a complete sentence?
I got the question above from Oprah. Smart woman! Being someone who used to justify my boundaries with explanations, I’ve since learned that it’s okay to stand up for myself by saying no. Sometimes, I even shout NO from the rooftops! I’ve gotten so good at it that I don’t even need to compensate with a “maybe next time” or come up with some elaborate reason that’ll help me or the other person feel better about themselves.
Now, this might sound simple, but it isn’t. After all, many of us tend to be ruled by guilt or the desire to people-please, even if that means letting the takers leave their footprints all over our backs. But when we create better boundaries, we become kinder, more compassionate people. This is because others always know where they stand with us. Instead of saying yes to things we don’t want to do, which ends up making us bitter or resentful, we let honesty be our compass. This makes for better communication and more authentic, open relationships with ourselves and others.